Let me introduce myself. I am Nathalie a mum of a 3.5 year old and a 4 month old.
You may or may not have heard of a blogger and blog called The Unmumsy Mum. If you haven't yet you really must. It's a true, it's honest and it's bloody funny. It's a blog reflecting the trials and tribulations of children and parenthood and I've been a fan for a long while. Her witty and straight to the point status updates and blog posts can ring true in any parents ear.
The other week, Charlie and I happened to be watching an episode of Topsy and Tim on Cbeebies. He's a massive fan and bravo on the catchy theme tune. It was the twin's 5th birthday. Mummy Twin (we never find out their surname - why is that?) had purchased two rather large silver number 5 balloons for the twins birthdays, you know the ones that usually cost about £8 each. Upon getting back to the car they struggled to get them into the back of their mum's small hatchback firstly please don't patronise us mothers, even I could have judged that and I have no spacial awareness whatsoever, but thank goodness the mother in law was on hand to take them homes - what are the chances hey!
Topsy & Tim and those balloons |
Ok. Stop right there BBC. What the hell are you doing to us parents?!? I totally get that you are trying to promote good morals in these kids but do you realise that in doing this you are just setting the little people up for a fall later on? How I hear you ask? How, er, by portraying mums like Topsy & Tim's mum in shows that our kids watch. No bleedin' wonder so many people want to go and live with Topsy and Tim's mum, so would I. All this is teaching kids, obviously alongside stranger danger blah blah blah is that it's ok for you to lose your balloons and drop your cakes that you parents paid good money for because you won't get any repercussions apart from going to their room to take a deep breath. Surely there must be some mums at the BBC who must realise that portraying family life like this is not normal?!?
Well, I took to The Unmumsy Mum Facebook page to vent my fury amongst a group of mothers that I hoped would see my point of view. Well, thank goodness they did. In fact after 3600 likes and over 280 shares I guessed that I wasn't alone in my thoughts.
Please don't get me wrong, I would love to be a parent like Topsy & Tim's mum, hell I aspire to be like her and be married to someone like their dad but do you know what, sometimes life and kids that throw tantrums that get in the way and 9/10 there is no such man as the twins dad. Ok, so I shout a lot. Too much. My darling eldest Charlie has at times pushed me to the edge and team that with lack of sleep it's amazing that no one has been killed in the process but I think this shows that I am just human. Parenting tests us daily. No one does it right. No two parenting books are the same. We are all just trying to survive. To get through the day with kids that are alive come bedtime and who are not socially screwed up by the time they fly the nest.
So, the point of my letter is this, please try and portray family life in your tv shows as more normal in the future. Show kids having an unacceptable tantrum and being told off. Show mums resorting to a glass of wine at 430pm whilst she stirs the baked beans for tea. Show Daddy getting an earful for not doing something every once and a while and please please please show a full scale meltdown in the middle of a supermarket isle by Topsy or Tim and then have Mummy whisper sweetly in their ear "you just wait till I get you home", that would be great.
Oh, and one more thing, when your casting director says "hey guess what we've hired an actress who used to be in Eastenders for the twins mum" maybe think twice.
What would Topsy and Tim's gorgeous dad say?!? |
Just so you don't think that we are ending on a sarcastic and bitter note, I did sign the "Save the Cbeebies channel" online petition. Parenting would be 100x harder without Andy with that smile and that hair, Dr Ranj - (why can't all GP's be like that?) and a huge thank you from all us mothers out there for bringing Mr Bloom into our lives, we are forever grateful.
Thank you for Mr Bloom. That's all. |
Yours sincerely,
Nathalie Webb
This Surrey Mummy
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